Category: Legal

15 Sep 2018

How to Divorce a Narcissist

Divorce is never an easy choice. Even bad marriages were once good, and it can be difficult to let go of the memory of when things were going well, and the belief that therelationship may somehow improve again.

Having said that, your decision about to divorce should never be contingent on whether you fear an aggressive or dangerous reaction from your spouse.

The reason we at Raleigh Law Center have decided to dedicate an entire blog post to the issue of fearing your spouse’s reaction is that we have seen, over and over again, that separating your life from problematic people is not only difficult and complex, it’s also potentially dangerous, and if you don’t get the help you need, it’s often far more harmful — financially, emotionally, and physically — than it should ever be.
Which brings us to the issue of how exactly do you go about initiating and completing a divorce from a narcissistic personality?

What is a Narcissist?

A lot of people have heard the word narcissist, but a narcissistic personality can be hard to pin down. As divorce lawyers, the important aspect for us in helping our clients deal with a narcissist is that narcissists often do not care about other people’s suffering, they cannot accept any criticism or threat to their power, and they will use almost any tactic — unethical, immoral, or deceptive — to get what they want.

Does any of that sound familiar?

We have had clients who tell us chilling stories about elaborate lies told by their narcissistic spouses, lies told not just to the spouse, but to kids, extended family, friends, and even the courts. Narcissists will stay with a lie even in the face of overwhelming evidence against them.

Dealing with this kind of morally ungrounded person can be infuriating, disheartening, and disillusioning. You can end up feeling like there is no way to win, no way to overcome the pain and suffering they are inflicting on you, your children, and your family.

We are here to tell you that none of this is true. With the right help, the right understanding, and the right tools, you can fight back and win against a narcissist. And at Raleigh Law Center, we are experienced with this type of spouse, and fully committed to helping you feel empowered, protected, and supported at the level you need to be in order to escape the harmful effects of being married to a narcissist.

You Need Allies to Fight a Narcissist

One of the most damaging techniques narcissists use is to isolate their victim, cut them off from friends and family, and leave the victim more vulnerable to lies, threats, and bullying. Narcissists make you feel in danger and afraid to seek help. This is exactly why you need powerful allies when you decide enough is enough.

Our long-running experience helping people break away from narcissistic spouses has shown us how important it is to have a full set of tools ready to be used to fight back against a narcissist’s unethical weapons. We will not hesitate to apply for restraining orders against narcissistic spouses. We will not hesitate to gather evidence of exactly how they try to intimidate or threaten you. We will not back down against spouses who use physical threats or intimidation against you.

The role of an attorney is always to seek what’s best for a client. That begins with advising you on what you’re dealing with and making sure you use every single means available to protect yourself as you go through the process of divorcing a difficult spouse.
Why Use Raleigh Law Center for Dealing with Narcissistic Spouse?

At Raleigh Law Center, we truly care about our clients. We are not a high-volume, churn-and-burn law firm that sees thousands of clients and offers them cookie-cutter legal representation. We truly listen, we learn your issues from every vantage point, and we offer specialized advice and consultation that fits your exact situation and needs.

Raleigh Law Center focuses on clients who are going through difficult, high conflict, often damaging divorces. We know how important it is to have excellent, dedicated, and committed representation that will take the time to help you see every single option you have for protecting yourself, your family, and for getting what you deserve. Raleigh Law Center remains committed to you even when the narcissist goes to great lengths to deny you what you deserve.

Call us today to set a time let us demonstrate just how committed we are to your safety, protection, and your rights in a divorce proceeding. Let us prove to you that Raleigh Law Center is the right firm to choose when you’re dealing with someone most people don’t even understand.

Don’t fight a narcissist alone. Raleigh Law Center will help you fight for your family, protecting your rights.

24 Aug 2018

Family Law Specialization Exam Review

BACK BY POPULAR DEMAND! Program Co-Chairs Paul DeJesse and Evonne Hopkins have assembled North Carolina’s finest Family Law Specialists to provide you with invaluable insights on major topics that every North Carolina family law practitioner encounters. Regardless if you are an aspiring or current Family Law Specialist or just want to brush up on the latest in Family Law, the wide range of topics covered and knowledge gained in connection with this seminar are not to be missed! Register Today!

27 Nov 2017

Evonne Hopkins named as Board of Directors Candidate

Please join us in congratulations to our very own Evonne Hopkins of Raleigh Law Center in becoming one of the candidates for Board of Directors during this year’s Tenth Judicial District Bar & WCBA Elections! We ask you to please show your support and vote for Evonne this year.  Please see voting information below!

NOTICE OF ELECTION TO ALL MEMBERS OF THE TENTH JUDICIAL DISTRICT BAR THE OFFICERS of the Tenth Judicial District Bar and Wake County Bar Association will have the annual election of Officers and Directors on Tuesday, December 5, 2017, at the Hilton North Raleigh/Midtown, 3415 Wake Forest Road in Raleigh at 12:15 p.m. Lunch will be served and the cost of lunch will be borne by the Tenth Judicial District Bar at no additional cost to members. For those unable to attend the luncheon, an early voting option will be made available at the Wake County Justice Center courtroom 102 and the WCBA offices at the North Carolina Bar Center Friday, December 1 from 8 a.m. to 12 p.m., and Monday Dec. 4 12 p.m. to 2 p.m




07 Feb 2017

The Differences Between Post Separation Support and Alimony

Raleigh Law Center

Raleigh Law Center

Understanding the differences between relevant legal terms throughout your divorce and separation are important to the success of your claim and your conversations with your attorney. Many individuals facing a separation aren’t sure of the differences between technical legal terms and how they may affect them moving forward in their respective cases. Post Separation Support and Alimony are similar but different terms where the differences are often misunderstood or unclear.

Post separation support, commonly referred to as PSS, is the legal term that refers to the payment to one spouse by another spouse temporarily during a separation and impending divorce prior to an alimony determination. Post separation support may be ordered in a shortened hearing prior to a full trial for an alimony award. In contrast, alimony is a term that is referred to the permanent order for payment to the other spouse for a fixed period of time. The alimony hearing is often longer and more in depth as a Post Separation Support order is a mere temporary order for payment until an alimony trial is conducted and an alimony award is determined or denied.

Each of the terms involves payment between separated and/or divorced spouses based on the individual’s respective incomes, the length of the marriage and other relative considerations. Post separation support functions as a temporary order for payment while alimony is decided in a lengthier trial with more facts and is a more permanent order by the court deciding payment of one spouse to another for a fixed duration of time.

If you feel you have a claim for post separation support or alimony or are interested in learning more about your options in your separation contact the attorneys at Raleigh Law Center today.

07 Jan 2017

Continuing Legal Education Seminar, 2016

Raleigh Law Center

Raleigh Law Center

In November of 2016 Attorney Evonne Hopkins taught a continued legal education, CLE, seminar for new family law attorneys through the N.C. Bar Association. Continued Legal Education is required of all attorneys throughout the State of North Carolina. The CLE was structured in a trial advocacy format. Attorney Hopkins and other veteran family law attorneys conveyed their wisdom and knowledge in the area of family law to many new family law attorneys emerging in the practice area.
The CLE focused on trial practice and procedure. The veteran attorneys worked with the new attorneys to develop skills in their practice concerning opening and closing statements, cross examinations and the procedure for entering exhibits into evidence during a family law trial. The new attorneys learned several procedural rules and many effective practice skills for conducting a family law trial.
Attorney Evonne Hopkins is committed to passing her skills and knowledge of the area of family law on to new attorneys in the practice area. Attorney Hopkins works to educate all lawyers in the area of family law and is dedicated to engaging and learning from her peers in family law.

16 Dec 2016

Holiday Custodial Schedules

Raleigh Law Center

Raleigh Law Center

With the holidays quickly approaching many parents are concerned about how the time will be split between the two households following a custody action concerning their minor children. The holidays are often a point of contention between two parents in the determination of the proper custodial schedule after their separation. The holidays are an important time for families to be together and continue their traditions as well as to make new memories.

Many custody orders provide for a special custodial schedule to be followed during the holidays in order to allow special family time between the minor children and each parent during the holiday season. The holidays are also important for custodial scheduling as the children are out of school during this time and arrangements must be made for the school day hours as well.

An example of common holiday custodial schedules is odd and even year scheduling. One parent will have the minor children on specific days of the holidays during the odd years and the other parent will have the children on those specific days during the even years. This type of holiday scheduling works well for many families so that each parent can experience the entire holiday season with their children by rotating the days by odd and even numbered years. There are various other combinations of holiday schedules that may be ordered based on the family and what is in the best interest of the minor children.

If you are concerned about the holiday scheduling for your minor children and are interested in learning of your options for custodial time during the holidays, contact the Raleigh Law Center today. Our attorneys are effective and experienced; we will work to establish the best possible holiday schedule for your minor children.

24 Aug 2016

Termination of Parental Rights

Raleigh Law Center

Raleigh Law Center

Termination of parental rights may be a difficult subject for families to face. While difficult and emotional, termination of parental rights, at times, may be in the best interests of the child involved. A petition must be filed to begin the termination of parental rights process. In order to be successful, the petitioner must meet one of the statutory grounds for termination. The statutory grounds for termination of parental rights in North Carolina are numerous including, abuse or neglect of the juvenile, failure to pay for the support of the juvenile without justification, and the relinquishment of the juvenile to the department of social services for adoption. This list is not exhaustive, as there are numerous statutory grounds for termination of parental rights. Once a petitioner has established a statutory ground for termination of parental rights, the petitioner must show that termination of parental rights is in the best interest of the juvenile. Termination of parental rights effectively ends the parent child relationship and disposes of all rights and responsibilities of a parent to the juvenile. Termination of parental rights may be a necessary process for a family and, most importantly, a juvenile to move forward in the best interest of the child.